The Power of Finding Connection in a Lonely, Polarized World

A few weeks ago, I got a complaint from our neighbors that “you guys are laughing too loud.” I did not know whether to take it as a complaint or a compliment.

Because in today’s world, when AI is taking over and most of us are buried in our phones, the idea that a group of adults is laughing together loudly enough to disturb the quiet felt almost miraculous.

Every time you pass by our dance studio, you can hear laughter spilling into the hallway. Singing. Cheering. The kind of joy that makes people pause and think, What is happening in there, and why does it feel so rare?

That same evening, I paused during class, took a deep breath and looked around. In that brief stillness, I felt something unusual. A moment of genuine human connection in a world that feels increasingly fractured.

It hit me then.

We are lonelier than ever, yet craving connection more than ever.

And this is happening at a time when technology promises to keep us closer than ever. AI is advancing faster than our understanding of it. Machines are learning how to sound like us and even soothe us. We carry entire worlds in our pockets, but rarely look up long enough to notice the ones standing right in front of us.

We are living through a strange irony. We have never been more connected on paper, yet more disconnected in spirit.

Because connection does not come from information. It comes from presence.

Sometimes it does not arrive through grand moments. It arrives quietly. When someone shows up. Messy. Tired. Vulnerable. Willing.

The Loneliness We Do Not Talk About

A few months ago, a young woman walked into our studio for the first time. Petite. Terrified. She panicked within minutes and left.

The next day, she came back.

She took class, and afterward she burst into tears while hugging me. Not because of the choreography, but because it was the first time in six months of living in Seattle that she had stepped outside her home alone.

Today, she is surrounded by friends and lighting up the stage with confidence.

Sometimes connection begins with the courage to return the next day.

We Are Surrounded, Yet Alone

People often tell me, “I talk to people all day, but I still feel lonely.”

We are constantly reachable, yet emotionally unavailable. We are in group chats all day, but cannot name one person we would call in the middle of the night.

Phones have replaced presence. Scrolling has replaced speaking. And AI is stepping into spaces once reserved for human comfort.

Don't get me wrong. None of these are the enemy. But they cannot replace one another.

Because loneliness is not the absence of noise. It is the absence of being known.

Connection Is Built in Hard Moments

Last year, one of our dancers was diagnosed with breast cancer and rushed to India for emergency surgery. She missed the showcase, but fought to return in time to sit in the audience and cheer for her team.

She told me, “The biggest motivator for me to recover and get back on my feet was to be part of Live2Dance.”

Eight months later, she was back on stage. Dancing her fear into dust.

Technology can remind us we are sick. People remind us we are alive.

 

Human Connection is the Greatest Survival Tool

There is the student who lost his wife due to a prolongiled illness. He was close to ending everything for himself too. Instead, he stumbled into our studio. Not looking for dance. Looking for a reason to stay.

Weeks later, he stood in front of me with tears in his eyes and said, “Live2Dance is one of the reasons I survived.”

No app could have saved him. A room full of humans did.

 

The Paradox of Our Time

We have AI that can write poetry but no time to ask someone how they are

We have endless followers but very few witnesses

We have conversations with machines but avoid uncomfortable conversations with each other

The danger is not that AI will become more human, The danger is that humans will become less human

Connection is not efficient, It is not optimized, It is not instant

It takes time, It takes patience, It takes heart

And none of that can be automated

Why This Matters Now

We are living in a time where loneliness is at epidemic levels. Trust is declining and division is rising. People feel unseen in their own cities

But we are also living in a time where communities can be built from scratch. Joy can become resistance and Kindness can become culture. And belonging can still save lives

The world may feel polarized, but it is not hopeless

Beyond Dance: What Connection Makes Possible

Through the relationships built in our studio, people have found jobs, navigated immigration, survived grief and illness, found life partners and lifelong friends, made homes in a country far from their own and held on during the pandemic when they had no one else

Community does not change every circumstance but it changes the way we carry it

My Hope

If there is one thing I have learned from building a community in Seattle, it is this:

Connection does not require changing the world, just changing how we show up in it

You do not need a plan, you just need one sincere moment. One pause long enough to say

I see you

In a world racing toward automation, the most radical thing we can offer is, OUR ATTENTION

And if there is one truth I want to leave you with, it is this:

In a lonely, polarized world, connection is not found online. It is found on the floor. Side by side. Moving to the same beat.

Why Dance Businesses Are the Unsung Engines of City Growth

When cities talk about economic growth, they talk about tech, real estate, restaurants, retail. Rarely, if ever, do they talk about dance businesses. And yet, dance studios are quietly shaping the cultural, economic, and social heartbeat of our cities.

As someone who left a cushy corporate career to build a dance community in Seattle, I’ve lived both sides. I know the spreadsheets that don't add up, the sleepless nights, the sacrifices, the self-doubt that creeps in when the bills are high and the energy is low. 

And I also know this: dance businesses may not look like “big business,” but their impact is undeniable.

We Preserve Culture and Enrich Communities

Every time a student steps into our studio, they don't just learn dance... they reconnect with themselves. 

As an adult, making friends in a new city is hard. Add the layer of being an immigrant, and it can feel almost impossible.

Dance changes that. It turns strangers into a family.

For immigrants, dance becomes a bridge between “home” and “here.” It also helps second-generation kids connect with their roots, and it helps cities like Seattle expand their cultural palette.

Our studio has become that home away from home. A space where culture isn’t just preserved, it’s lived.

We Drive the Local Economy

Running a dance studio is not just teaching dance. It’s managing staff, paying rent, renting theaters, designing costumes, hiring photographers, videographers, marketing teams, event managers, and so much more

It’s the ripple effect that goes unseen. Restaurants filled before and after classes, parking garages overflowing, vendors, designers, caterers, stage crews all thriving because of one performance night.

Multiply that by numerous such nights in our studio and hundreds of studios across a city, and you start to see what nobody talks about; how dance businesses silently fuel local economies, while also filling hearts.

We Build the City’s Emotional Fabric

Dance is not just movement. It’s therapy. It’s connection. It’s belonging. In our studio, I’ve seen exhausted corporate professionals find joy again; students with social anxiety shine on stage and cries after, because they finally felt seen; moms reclaim their identities beyond motherhood.

I see this happen all day, everyday.

And it’s not just about the people inside the studio. Dance businesses often become the glue between communities and civic institutions. From police-community bridge events to charity fundraisers, dance creates the kind of human connection that no policy paper ever could.

We Model Resilience and Leadership

Most dance entrepreneurs I know are women, immigrants, or people from underrepresented backgrounds. 

We’ve built our businesses from scratch, with no investors, no playbook, just a vision and grit.

We’ve survived high rents, pandemic shutdowns, visa rejections, financial droughts and endless “Are you sure this is sustainable?” looks

And yet adapt. Moving online, reinventing our offerings, staying alive when others fold.

This resilience isn’t just about business survival. It sets an example for our students, our kids, our communities: that you can chase your passion, build something meaningful, and still contribute to the city’s growth.

The Multiplier Effect

One dance business isn’t just one dance business. It’s a ripple. It’s energy. It’s creativity spilling out into the streets, enriching the city in ways you can’t always put on a balance sheet.

And that’s the point.

Cities don’t just need infrastructure — they need heartbeat.
Dance studios are that heartbeat.
They build confidence, connection, and culture. They create citizens who feel seen, supported, and alive.

And yet, they’re often dismissed as hobbies.

I call it home. A place where strangers turn into families, where culture finds its voice again, and where cities remember to breathe.

So the next time we talk about “building strong cities,” let’s not forget the ones who are literally teaching our cities to dance. 💛

40. FOUR ZERO.

Forty trips around the sun. Forty New Year’s resolutions I didn’t keep. Forty chances to stumble, rise, stumble again, and rise a little taller each time.

When I was little, honestly, 40 looked like a full stop. A number so big it felt like life would surely end there. You know… people at 40 were supposed to retire, sit in their verandas, and complain about their backs. Old. Grumpy. Done.

Well, LOL. How wrong were we?

Because here I am at 40 and the story’s just getting good.

Something flipped this year. Like a switch inside me. Suddenly, I don’t care who’s watching, clapping, or whispering behind my back. I don’t care to “keep up” or “prove myself.” I’ve found my lane, and I’m swimming in it—loudly, joyfully, unapologetically. And oh boy, it’s liberating.

This last decade? Whew. It wasn’t pretty. Between raising kids (while constantly wondering if I’m screwing it up), building a business from scratch, heartbreaks, failures, pandemic, bankruptcy, broken bones, losing people I loved, mental, emotional, and physical breakdowns, raising my voice for those who couldn’t, lawsuits, injuries, bankruptcy, vandalism—you name it. Life threw the whole kitchen sink at me.

And yet… in the middle of the chaos, I grew up.

I stopped chasing validation.
I stopped measuring my worth in applause, Instagram likes, or polite nods of “you’re doing so well.”

My definition of success shifted from validation → to impact.

Success no longer looks like trophies, promotions, or milestones.

It looks like, the sound of my kids’ giggles echoing through the house. A student telling me they feel “seen” on the dance floor. A random message that says, “Hey, you made my day better.” The quiet joy of knowing that my work has created a safe space for someone.

At 40, success is not about proving myself. It’s about improving the spaces I step into.
It’s not about competing. It’s about creating. It’s leaving a legacy etched in hearts.

Did I hit every target I once dreamed of? Nope. I missed plenty.
But what I gained instead? Love. Warmth. Blessings. COUNTLESS.

So here’s to 40.
To being bold. To being messy. To laughing out loudest. To being unapologetically me. To being silly. To being wildly ambitious. But ambitious for joy, not just milestones.

To building a life that will outlive me. Not in monuments, but in memories.

Because achievements? Validation? They fade.
But impact? Happiness? Legacy?
That’s forever.

And for everyone who’s walked beside me, cheered for me, lifted me—I am, because YOU are.

With love,
Deepali